Sign: Decrease in Sex + Trying new sexual position + an attempt to look more attractive

Client: "John"

"My wife and I always had a normal sex life. We were married for 3 years, and were having sex twice or thrice a week. If there is any complain, I guess it had to be that she is quite conservative and unwilling to try new things out. However, recently there has been a rapid decline in the frequency for the last 4 months. It all started during the 2009 economic downturn when I was retrenched. Money was tight and the bills kept coming in. There seemed to be no jobs available in my field.

My wife decided to get a part time job and help out until I found a decent position. This I have to admit, hurt my self-esteem. That's when our sex life began to spiral downward. At the beginning, I was at fault as the stress and lack of self-esteem affected our sex life. Add on to the fact she has to work, I thought it was something unavoidable.

But then things turned around, it was my wife who was making all the excuses. She would go to bed before me saying that she had to get up early for work the next morning. Or she would come home from work claiming that she was exhausted. When I would approach her in bed, she would tell me that if I put in half as much effort into my job as I did trying to seduce her we would be millionaires.

In the rare time we ever had sex, I was surprise as she would ask to try out new positions in bed. I was of course pleased with this thou wishing we would have sex more frequently.  Along the time she has been working, her dressing was getting more modern but I thought that was due to exposure to the working life after years as a housewife.

One day thou, I got a phone call from a buddy of mine whom claimed to have seen my wife with another guy. Needless to say, I hired an investigator. After 3 days of tracking, I got evidence of my wife meeting another guy.”

What You Need To Know.

A couple who has had a sexual pattern which changes drastically is usually a sign of a cheating spouse. Be it a change of behavior in the room or a sudden drop in frequency.

Perhaps, your spouse changed his or her own sex style and interests and wants you to perform it. Your spouse may use these new techniques with you-but fails to realize that you see this change not as fun. Use it as a warning flag.

What You Can Do:

Document the times your spouse dresses extra nice when going out or to work. That might be the day your spouse is meeting the lover.

Take note of the lingerie they are buying. Usually a new partner would mean an attempt to look more attractive.

Note down unaccountable time spent by your partner. This would help a lot in the investigation.